this post may be a bit touchy for some. please know these are all just my opinions and thoughts. every momma must parent the best that she can. i'm not judging anyone, so please don't judge me.
so before we had sweet nuggie i was sure i would be a "baby-wise" momma. i've seen it work on other kiddos and was sure it was the route i wanted to take. when our babes joined our home though, i couldn't do it. it literally hurt my heart to hear her cry. it was just something i couldn't do. eventually we did do a modified cry it out method when it was time for her to start sleeping in her crib. we had first tried to transition her from our room to her own room in her crib gradually and with no tears, but that just wasn't happening. so over the course of 3 days we would let her fuss (but not get hysterical) and go to her and calm her and then, well, anyhow - you know how it works. after just three days of some fussy nights she was sleeping like a champ in her crib in her own room. it was amazing for bub and i to get better rest in our room alone and it was what we all three needed. but now - the little lady won't nap in there. i'd say maybe three times a week i can get her to take a 20 min nap in her crib, but that's it. i know she needs naps. she's a little baby and she's obviously sleepy. we have a mini nap routine - dry diaper, small bottle and rock in the rocking chair then i lay her down with her music playing or her the mobile going. and it hardly ever works. she cries and cries and cries. i go to her every 10-15 min, pat her and calm her and talk to her a little and then quietly leave the room. and she cries. and you may say, let her cry it out. i'm telling you, the girl will cry for forever. well, ok, maybe not. after an hour of the crying, patting, calming routine i will get her up and put her in the swing and she'll sleep there because i just hate hearing her upset. i know it's ok that she'll sleep in the swing, but i really would like to get her on a better nap routine so that we can plan our days a little better and so when others watch her she's on a little schedule and could sleep in a pack n play or something. what should i do??? let her cry more? just keep trying a little every day and hope she'll eventually get it? the girl sleeps like a champ at night. half the time i can lay her down awake and she'll talk a little and then it's lights out, the other half i just rock her to sleep and lay her down. but naps are a struggle. will she eventually outgrow this? do i need to be more strict? i'm at a total loss. she's our first, so i think i'm stressing a little, ok, ALOT about this. i don't want to raise a child who is disobedient all the time and who thinks she can always get her way... but she's just a little baby right now. what is a momma to do??
3 comments:
Maybe she cries when she is lying flat because of her reflux and she will sleep in her swing because she is angled so she is not refluxing and hurting? I have had friends who have had to let their babies sleep in a carseat in their crib until almost age one because of this. Just a thought...
For a while, Taylor would only nap in her swing too. Eventually, she got too heavy for it to swing anymore and was content stretching out in bed. I say don't rush it and if she is getting a nap, that is what is important!
H-do sleeps in his bouncy seat in his crib. He hates being on his back...maybe try propping the mattress with a rolled blanket (that's what out dr. suggested)
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